Marriage counselingMarriage counselling - An important subject

Marriage is a complicated institution. It is not of the walk in the park kind dynamics. Partnering up with someone for life is a big deal. Getting married is one of the biggest milestones in an individual’s life. However, maintaining a relationship and marriage is one of the more difficult tasks. It requires understanding and constant trust. It is natural that there will be some marital issues that you’ll face. However, the way you deal with them determines how healthy your marriage is.

How can you determine if you need marriage counseling? You can ask yourself certain questions about your marriage.

·        Does your spouse often criticize you and vice versa?

·        Do you trust your partner completely?

·        Are you or your partner very defensive?

·        How do you deal with the problems? Confrontation?

·        How does this confrontation go?

·        Is there any violence or abuse involved?

·        Is there any infidelity – physical or emotional in your relationship?

These questions will paint a much clearer picture of your marriage and put things in perspective. You can then decide if you want to go for marriage counseling. Marriage counseling or any kind of counseling for that matter doesn’t guarantee that there won’t be conflicts. It simply makes individuals and couples ready to deal with those conflicts in a healthy way.

If you wait too long before seeking advice or if one of the spouses is set on divorce, then chances are that marriage counseling will not work for you. Couples who are open to therapy and are willing to change benefit the most. A relationship advisor becomes the enabler of communication that a couple couldn’t carry out effectively prior to therapy. Once communication starts flowing, it is possible for the spark to come back and you're in love again. Happy couples are not the one who don’t fight but are the ones who fight and can agree to disagree.