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Effect of A Lockdown On Couples


None of us saw this coming. It was not just us who were caught by surprise, even world leaders, genius billionaires, full time philanthropists did not anticipate this year to turn out the way it did. Yes, a few scientists said there were warning signs but nothing concrete in evidence was ever submitted. I am obviously talking about this lockdown, caused by a pandemic. Couples are either stuck together in close quarters or far apart from each other. It is fair to say that couple therapy will be in demand once we can go out and see other people. Now, will that be for couples stuck together or for those who cannot see each other? Only time will tell. But it is fair to assume that it might be for both. A lockdown is not a weekend getaway or a holiday. It is staying with each other all the time with very little breathing room and the extra stress of a pandemic. While it might seem normal for couples living together, it really is not. In normal circumstances, a two people living together can take a break, go out for a smoke or a walk, meet with friends for a change of scene. However, once you are stuck inside a house during a lockdown, all that gets thrown out of the window.

For couples not being able to meet, this lockdown can be worse. Gone are the Friday night movie sessions or Sunday brunches to catch up, it is all video calling and texts now. So much distance for such a long time can have a serious impact on any relationship, especially if it is a new and budding one. Moreover, no access to therapy can lead to further personal issues that can crop up during a fight or an argument. Some people depend on group therapy or personal therapy to keep themselves in check. Therapy helps them function better, keep their emotions in check and help deal with stress a lot better. But now, they are all on their own, stuck in a house and away from the one person they truly love and connect with. We do not know for certain what the ramifications will be of this lockdown on couples like these.

At the end of the day, it can be said that external factors can only have as much of an impact on a relationship as you allow. But that cannot be true for such unprecedented times. For example, a person who regularly goes to support groups for help, must now deal with trauma or lingering effects of the trauma alone. Whatever you might say, dealing with such issues alone is not easy, hence groups like these exist in the first place. Add to that, the pressure of a relationship, maintaining intimacy and more. These stressors can accumulate and cause further stress leading to more mental health problems. Let us all hope this ends soon, and we can go back to normalcy.

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