When it comes to
managing problems in our lives as individuals, we do manage to deal with it
somehow. But what when it is a problem with your partner or within the family.
Every relationship sees its ups and downs from time to time. It is what we do
as responsible adults to solve this problem that matters. The gruesomeness of
the problems can vary now and then. But if there is a proper clear
communication established between the individuals, we can find ways of tackling
the issues. Sometimes all that is needed is for people to sit and talk it out
instead of just piling up emotions inside and bursting out some day.
But in some cases, the
situation might be different. Sometimes, those two people are unable to just
reach any solution. Things can sometimes go so much out of hand that
intervention by third party becomes necessary. This third party can be anybody
who the couple confides into. This person/s can help the couple sit down and
talk and help reach a solution that is a win-win for both parties. But even
after this if nothing seems to help, seeking professional help is the only
option left. Marriage
counselling helps couple to systematically put their problems forward and
help understand each other. With constant fights and issues that keep cropping
up, the trust which is the most important thing between a couple, something
that binds them tightly with each other, is lost.
A marriage counsellor
helps the couple build this trust up first as trust is the foundation of
working of any relation. He or she may provide them with various trust
exercises too. The main aim of a marriage counsellor is to show the two
individuals a clear side of the other party too and think through it sanely.
The reasons behind couples approaching a marriage counsellor are varied. The
issues that people generally have are, lack of time and attention given to the
relationship, money matters, cheating and lying, more attention paid to the kid
by one partner (mostly women), lack of sexual intimacy and inexpressive
behaviour.
It all depends on the
situation of the people that a counsellor provides solution. The appointments
for such counselling is not usually more than twice a week.
Along with marriage
counselling, family
counselling is also something that people go for these days. It is way
different than marriage counselling. Family is one of the best blessings that a
person receives. But sometimes, some unfavourable conditions lead to loosening
of the tightly knot strings. This is when approaching a family counsellor
becomes important.
Now there can be
various reasons for constraints to happen within a family. It can be due to a
sudden death of someone close, an accident, divorce of parents, loss of
property, financial constraints and so on. Soaring of relations between parents
and kids is also one of the reasons to see a counsellor. With both parents
working today, a child might feel neglected and lonely as he has nobody to
express his or her fears and concerns too. A family counsellor’s work is to
work on these very problems re-strengthening the bond between a family.
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