WHEN DO YOU OR YOUR FAMILY NEED A COUNSELLOR?

When it comes to managing problems in our lives as individuals, we do manage to deal with it somehow. But what when it is a problem with your partner or within the family. Every relationship sees its ups and downs from time to time. It is what we do as responsible adults to solve this problem that matters. The gruesomeness of the problems can vary now and then. But if there is a proper clear communication established between the individuals, we can find ways of tackling the issues. Sometimes all that is needed is for people to sit and talk it out instead of just piling up emotions inside and bursting out some day.

But in some cases, the situation might be different. Sometimes, those two people are unable to just reach any solution. Things can sometimes go so much out of hand that intervention by third party becomes necessary. This third party can be anybody who the couple confides into. This person/s can help the couple sit down and talk and help reach a solution that is a win-win for both parties. But even after this if nothing seems to help, seeking professional help is the only option left. Marriage counselling helps couple to systematically put their problems forward and help understand each other. With constant fights and issues that keep cropping up, the trust which is the most important thing between a couple, something that binds them tightly with each other, is lost. 

A marriage counsellor helps the couple build this trust up first as trust is the foundation of working of any relation. He or she may provide them with various trust exercises too. The main aim of a marriage counsellor is to show the two individuals a clear side of the other party too and think through it sanely. The reasons behind couples approaching a marriage counsellor are varied. The issues that people generally have are, lack of time and attention given to the relationship, money matters, cheating and lying, more attention paid to the kid by one partner (mostly women), lack of sexual intimacy and inexpressive behaviour.

It all depends on the situation of the people that a counsellor provides solution. The appointments for such counselling is not usually more than twice a week.

Along with marriage counselling, family counselling is also something that people go for these days. It is way different than marriage counselling. Family is one of the best blessings that a person receives. But sometimes, some unfavourable conditions lead to loosening of the tightly knot strings. This is when approaching a family counsellor becomes important.

Now there can be various reasons for constraints to happen within a family. It can be due to a sudden death of someone close, an accident, divorce of parents, loss of property, financial constraints and so on. Soaring of relations between parents and kids is also one of the reasons to see a counsellor. With both parents working today, a child might feel neglected and lonely as he has nobody to express his or her fears and concerns too. A family counsellor’s work is to work on these very problems re-strengthening the bond between a family.