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Two Years or Twenty Years into A Relationship, Who Needs Therapy More?


It is often believed that a marriage is the ultimate form companionship and is pure and devoid of all malice. While in a fairytale this makes for a great plot, things are a lot different here in the real world. Marriages suffer, people separate, couples fight, but there are times when a couple fights for the relationship instead. That is a true sign of a relationship that wants to last. Marriage counseling is often looked down upon because of the same reason, that no couple “truly in love” will ever need counseling. However, this archaic point of view has changed a little, at least in the urban India. So, does every couple ever need therapy? Do you only need it when you have been together for a lot of years? How do you know you need therapy? Well, the answers to all these questions are a lot more complex than it may seem. But this theory about new couples not needing therapy needs to be addressed.

It is believed that only couples who have been together for a long-time face differences so huge that they need therapy. While younger couples are okay and do not need it all. This unfortunately is not true. Differences between a couple can crop up at any given point, irrespective of the timeline of their relationship. A counseling psychologist treats the issues based on the issue, not based on the number of years the couple has spent together. This means that even if you have been together for 6 months or 6 years or 26 years, you can go through a phase for which you need therapy to get out of. In conclusion, do not judge your relationship problems based on the time you have spent with your partner. If things are getting tough, seek help and get better!

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